Tag: mindset coaching

Slow progress is not your problem.

You think it is. You look at where you are versus where you thought you’d be by now, and you decide the issue is pace. You’re not moving fast enough. Everybody else is further along. You need a better system, a harder push, a bigger swing to make up ground.

That’s not what happened.

Go back and look honestly at the last three years. You didn’t move too slowly. You moved, then stopped, then restarted from a dead stop, then stopped again. Six or seven times. And every single restart cost you more than the slow stretch ever did.

The Real Cost Of Stopping

Momentum is brutal to create and cheap to maintain. Anyone who’s ever pushed a truck knows this in their body. Getting it rolling nearly kills you. Keeping it rolling is one hand.

That’s true of everything. Training, writing, sales calls, marriage, prayer, the business itself. The first three weeks are the tax. After that the thing largely carries itself, and you get to a point where not doing it feels stranger than doing it.

So when you stop, you don’t lose the days you were off. You lose the days you were off plus the entire cost of getting rolling again.

Take three weeks off from training and you don’t come back three weeks behind. You come back to the hardest part, the part you already paid for once. That’s why guys restart the same thing eleven times over a decade and end up exactly where they started, having worked incredibly hard the whole time.

They weren’t lazy. They paid the startup cost eleven times and never got to collect on any of it.

Read that again, because it explains most of your last decade.

Move An Inch

Here’s the reversal, and it will feel too small to be useful.

The standard is not progress. The standard is do not stop.

Some days you’re going to move six inches. Some days you’re going to move one. There will be weeks where the business is on fire and someone in your family needs you and the only thing you can do is one push-up, one call, one paragraph, one honest sentence to your wife.

Do the inch. The inch is not the point. The inch keeps the machine turning over.

I’ve had stretches where the business was doing well and I could barely function personally, and stretches the other way around. What got me through both was not intensity. It was refusing to let the thing come to a full stop, even when what I had to give it was almost nothing.

And don’t wait to feel like it. Motivation is a mood and moods are weather. If your standard requires you to feel a certain way, then somebody else’s traffic jam or your own bad night of sleep gets to decide whether you build your life this week.

You don’t need to feel like it. You need to move.

Keep the train moving. That’s it. That’s the whole method, and it beats intensity over any span longer than a month.

3 Tactical Ways To Stop Stopping

1. Set the floor, not the goal. For every commitment that matters, define the smallest version that still counts on your worst day. Not the ideal. The floor. Twenty minutes of training. One sales call. Ten minutes with your kid, phone in the other room. On good days you’ll blow past it. On bad days you’ll hit the floor and the streak survives, which is the only thing that mattered.
2. Track the chain, not the outcome. Put the thing on a calendar and mark every day you did it, floor or better. You’re not tracking results. You’re tracking continuity. Once you can see the chain, breaking it costs you something visible, and visible costs change behavior in a way that intentions never have.
3. Pre-decide your restart. You are going to miss. Sickness, travel, a week where everything comes apart at once. Decide right now, in advance, that one miss is a miss and two in a row is not allowed. Most men don’t fall off from a single skipped day. They fall off because the second day had no rule attached to it and neither did the twelfth.

Final Thought

The life you want is not behind a breakthrough. It’s behind consistency, which is a far less exciting answer and the only one that has ever worked.

You don’t need to go faster. You need to still be going in eighteen months, which almost nobody is, which is the entire competitive advantage available to you.

Move an inch today. Move an inch tomorrow. Then look up in a year and find out where an inch a day actually gets you, because it’s further than anybody thinks.

Here’s the challenge. Pick one thing that matters and write down its floor. The smallest version that counts on your worst day. Then hit that floor every day for the next thirty days without a single full stop.

Message me on day one and tell me what you picked. Then message me on day thirty.

Talk soon…
– Sean Whalen